People grow, and no, it doesn't necessarily mean to grow in a wiser manner. Grow to be more aware, and to fear more, grow to be sceptical to certain issues. We don't want to see the ugly shades of the world, we all want to see only the rich blue, and the healthy green. In time, we can't avoid the dark lanes of homeless people, torn shelters, morbid music, disrespect, adultery, pot, cults, etc. Once we've seen it, we turn into wrecks, paranoid that the ones we love would/could be a member of that darker society, breeding evil when you least expected it.

Yy and I were on the topic of being in a relationship when your halves don't understand the kind of relationship you have with certain people, thus putting them in a little box labelled "Possibly more than friends. Yikes!". Its not uncommon, therefore, no blame appointed. What people could do, however, is to explain the nature of that doubtful (in your halves' perception) relationship.

Don't, and you have your gfs pulling you by the ear when you give a goodnight hug to your fellow groupie who happens to be of an opposite sex, or your bfs pondering at 6am if you've been more than friends with anyone of them, etc.

So, around this time last year, I got back in touch with Josh (whom I met in chinabar thru John) who got close to Yy around the time we lost contact. Yy and Josh were colleagues and at that point in time when both were single, they decided to mingle together and in the process, met quite a number of weird babes. I knew Tino since the time i got to know Josh. Josh was infatuated (or so I thought) with a friend of mine, so that friend would drag me along when she was meeting Josh and he would drag Tino with him. Karen was a close friend of J and T, so I saw her from time to time. Iskandar, also a friend through J, was a 'bump-into' at Momo. Gerri was a classmate of mine back in SIC and we invited her for outings as well.

Not that the above description would help in suggesting the kind of bond we all have. T, K and G were at their high points in life, stabling their careers, or maintaining their stable careers or in simple terms, dealing with their own shyt which happens to be time consuming, therefore, only joining us on scheduled outings and not a spontaneous "hey! we're in town, wanna join?". Isk worked long hours and John was on a totally different timezone since our mornings were his nights.

Often, it was J, Yy and I. With J, meeting all the wrong people, it wasn't unusual for Yy and I to be stranded along a quiet road at 4am with some unworthy girl crying all over J's shoulders expressing her undying love for him IF she had not already committed herself to 3 other different men. All that drama aside, we all hung out from a single friday every week, to everyday, every week.

From late nights at rouge, we ventured to deserted spots in singapore and explored the unexplored. We were all quite inseparable and we all were updated with each other's lives, or so we thought. Still, we were there without the realisation that we all actually 'needed' each other's companies.

Soon, everyone else got themselves attached. Yy and I became the only single ones in that 'once-huge' group. Of course, when any of them got into problems with their halves, then only would Yy and I receive a "yea, i guess town sounds good" from them, which is sad, then again, we gave them our unconditional love, so no complains.

Road trips, backpacking trips, mama dramas, zoo trips, you name it. We've all done that.

I just realised I can't really explain the kind of bond we all have. Simply put, we all enjoy each other, even without having to start a conversation. Therefore, since the 'fridays' seem to be drifting apart, and god knows who brings a new gf/bf the next time we all meet, I suggest this post as a reference to all newbies before another catfight.

And for the record, none of us were ever more than friends with each other in that group.